Throughout my life, I’ve noticed two kinds of people. Some tell everyone everything. They almost overshare—and sometimes they do. Others don’t share much at all.
Being curious, I started watching both groups. I wondered what they believed, how they worked, and whether those beliefs actually helped them. Here’s what I think I’ve learned.
Keeping what you know to yourself, protect your job!
Some people keep information close because they think it gives them job security. If nobody else knows how to do the work, they can’t be replaced. At least, that’s the idea.
They often look busy all the time and talk about how overworked they are. But from the outside, a boss may start wondering what they’re really doing. And when only one person knows how to handle something, no one else can pitch in. Eventually, people get tired of hearing that the one person who can help is too busy.
What do people think of the person who shares?
People who show others how they do things can get called “show-offs.” The person holding on to the information may think: If anyone can do what I do, what makes me valuable?
I’ve noticed the opposite can happen. The person who shares often seems to have more time and is available to help with the next thing. That’s because they’ve made it possible for other people to help, too. And when you help the people around you succeed, you build trust. You also become the kind of teammate others can see leading a team.
But wait. There is more!
I’ve seen this play out in business as well. Someone may worry that if they explain how they do the work, a client will just do it themselves.
But often, when clients understand what goes into a job, they decide they’d rather pay someone who knows what they’re doing. Think about landscaping. Most of us can push a lawnmower or rake leaves. There’s still an entire industry of landscapers. Knowing how to do something doesn’t mean you have the time, tools, or interest to do it yourself.
So if you’ve been keeping your cards close because you think it protects your job or your business, maybe try sharing a little more. You might find that showing people how you do it doesn’t make you less valuable. It helps them see why your experience matters—and gives the people around you a chance to help you grow while you help them grow. Growth is good for everyone, the only other choice is….